Has Someone Crossed Your Line?

Crime Victim SupportRFSL

RFSL's crime victim support is here for you who identifies as an LGBTQ individual and that has been subject to violations, threats or violence.

In our work we often see violence and exposure to violence. Sometimes, what you are experiencing does not correspond with your image of what violence is.

The perpetrator can be a partner, family member, relative, an acquaintance, co-worker, school mate, strangers, and sometimes organized groups. The violence can be psychological, physical, sexual, economical or material in nature.

The perpetrator can have different motives. It can be about exercising power and control over another person, or it can be about a hatred towards LGBTQ individuals. Some times honor norms are involved, and more than one perpetrator can be involved.

Below are descriptions of different types of violence.

Hate Crime

If someone tries to violate you because of how they perceive your sexual orientation, gender identity or gender expression, it is a hate crime.

You might be:

  • Harassed or called ugly names
  • Spit on
  • Groped, forced to perform sexual acts
  • Confined, held
  • Threatened via Internet, phone or letters
  • Pushed, scratched, bitten, dragged by the hair, beaten and kicked

Honour Related Violence

Sometimes honor norms can be the basis of violence against an LGBTQ individual. As with hate crimes, it can vary from derogatory words to the risk of deadly violence. In honor related violence, many people are involved in subjecting someone to control, threat and/or violence. Honor can be described as something that needs to be defended in order for a family to maintain a good reputation.

You might be:

  • Monitored and controlled
  • Bereft of your right to have sex and relations with who you want
  • Punished by being grounded
  • Forced to marry against your will
  • Be subject to attempts at conversion by a psychologist, doctor or spiritual leader
  • Shut out from the family
  • Forced to live a double life
  • Subject to physical violence

Domestic Abuse

Being subject to violence from your partner means that your partner is trying to limit your living space through power and control. Partner violence happens repeatedly and is systematic. It can be perceived as a constant stressor, with consequences such as lowered self esteem, fear, anger and to gradually having to push ones boundaries.

You might be:

  • Humiliated, diminished and called derogatory names
  • Criticized for your appearance, gender expression, behavior or for your family/friends
  • Controlled and isolated
  • Unable to see who you want or be open as an LGBTQ individual
  • Bereft of the power over your shared finances
  • Pushed, held, dragged, pinched, kicked or beaten

The partnern might also:

  • Threaten to hurt other, such as children or pets
  • Threaten to commit suicide
  • Intimidate you
  • Throw things at you, use weapons
  • Threaten to reveal your sexuality, gender identity, relationships or HIV status
  • Threaten to obstruct your gender assessment process
  • Keep you from taking medications, get treatment or aids

Sexual Violence

Sexual violence is about violating someones’ sexual boundaries. It can happen in a relationship or in a casual sexual contact. Sexual violence is sometimes used on LGBTQ individuals as an act of degradation or punishment.

You might be:

  • Touched against your will
  • Talked into performing sexual acts that you don’t want to
  • Forced to witness or partake in sexual acts against your will
  • Refused safe sex
  • Forced to pose
  • Forced to partake in sexual play against your will
  • Subject to rape


Hotline: 020-34 13 16 (gratis)

During the period Dec 23-Jan 8 the Crime Victims Support is closed. You can reach us again from Jan 9.

E-mail: boj@rfsl.se